My boyfriend took an out of town job, He has totally changed Who he is?? It is ruining us , what do I do?

He never talked to me about it in person. He just took the job. So it started off bad. He denied my calls, visits,texts and basically said I just had to accept it. He is now living two hours away and comes home only on weekends. He says that we will have all this time on the weekends and then when the weekends roll around he never gives me the time we need. He says it is because he doesn't want to discus our issues but the whole situation is messed up and we need to talk it over and figure it out. I am 31 and he is 28. My daughter is 11 and they are very close. He calls her his daughter and she calls him her dad. We had plans to get married one day although we weren't engaged yet and we were going to buy a house here in town once we were married. We even knew the exact neighborhood. We agreed that we would always live in this town no matter what and that we didn't want to live together until we were married. Once he got there he was just there days and he already was talking about buying a house there of his own and I couldn't believe it. He completely omitted me from his plan and says that he just doesn't want to waste money on renting something. SO my dilemma is Yes, I know life changes things and even though we planned to stay here forever this job offer came up and he is happy there. He and his friends say that if I loved him that we would follow him there. However, I am not selling my business and my home and taking my daughter out of school to go live next to him in an apartment, If we dated another year and then we got married and we bought a house together then yes I would move there for him because that is what you do. However there is no commitment there and it is unfair for him to even expect me to dat him with weekends only while he makes plans for his future by himself? Meanwhile our plans are out the window because he is scared of the next steps of the relationship. It makes me sad and i don't want to lose him nut I don't know what to do? I don't want to hold him back but this change has hurt me so bad and I feel like he has chosen the job over our relationship for sure. He doesnt care how I feel or that I cry all day everyday and that I weigh less than 100 pounds. Please help.